LEARN HOW TO BUILD A HAPPY, AND SPIRITUAL FAMILY.

In this modern age, family closeness has been threatened by a competitive culture and great technological change. Many families are suffering from such issues as separation, turmoil, selfishness and for some, domestic violence. Traditional and education within the family and neighborhood structure has been overtaken by television. In this article, you will learn how to begin shaping a spiritual and a happy family.

CREATE A FAMILY IDENTITY

Forging a family  identity together can create a sense of cohesion and purpose as a family. Begin by finding a family  motto that each member of your family has contributed to, whether by way of words, ideas, or reflections.
1. What will your family motto be? Write a family vision statement. Describe your family's goals and dreams. Also write down what your family likes to do.

WORK TOGETHER

A happy family depends on teamwork. Every member of your family should feel that he or she has a stake in wanting to have a happy family life. Create guidelines in your family for how you can work together as a team.

1. Start with simple chores and work your way up to shared vacation plans and learning new things together.

NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN'S POSITIVE FEATURES 

The first step to guiding your children to become resilient is to foster positive values. The most important values are love, wisdom, self – discipline, inner peace and happiness.

1. Explain to your family that the property of live means that you are positive to yourself, to your family, and to the whole world. Encourage each of your children to live for the happiness of all beings and, at the same time, develop their own happiness

2. Show your children that wisdom is to live healthily, to think positively, to read spiritual books, and to relax often enough. As a parent, recognize that it is difficult to educate some children to wisdom when they like to eat sweets, watch TV, and do only what they want to. As children grow, they are in a constant struggle between short and long – term thinking, and as a parent, it is your duty to guide them in learning how to turn into their deeper selves, to delay instant gratification, and to realize the virtues of self – discipline.

TURN YOUR CHILDREN INTO WINNERS 

Ally yourself with the wisdom within your children and strengthen their predominantly positive characteristics. The best approach is to emphasize the positive and traits and to ignore their negative behavior, if this is possible.

1. Lead your children with a good example: be strong, clear, and show them the value of freedom to make choices and to think for themselves. Children learn primarily by watching positive role models with education supplementing what they have already learned from those they trust and love the most.

CREATE INNER PEACE ENVIRONMENT AROUND YOUR FAMILY

Inner peace is very important for every family. Protect your children from sensory overload which means in particular, protect them from too much television.

1. One hour of quality TV per day is the maximum amount suitable for children. While it would be even better to abolish the TV, few families have the courage to go to this extent. Instead, teach your children to be watching TV critically. For a young child you might just ask a simple questions during the program like, “is John’s character being naughty or nice.” For older children you can dig deeper, like, “why did the writer have John's character do that” Or, my favorite, make a game of it, “whoever can tell me how this plot will end will get a prize.” The goal is to get children to realize that an author wrote the show they are watching and perhaps they can write a story too.
2. Encourage and guide your children to implement their own sense of self – discipline. A long-term positive and fulfilling life is only possible when we grow into adults with a sound sense of self – discipline, and the sooner you are able to provide the means for this in their lives, the better.

ANCHOR ALL YOUR THOUGHTS IN THE POSITIVE 

Encourage all family members to learn to pay attention to their thoughts. Do this by having a regular honest discussions; positive activities, and positive rituals, such as eating together, telling stories, reading spiritual books, singing songs, saying prayers ,and practicing meditation, etc.

1. In your family, avoid succumbing to using consumption as a means of activity and reward; rather, look for inspiration in seeking inner happiness through non – material pursuits and through living one another, and spending time together.

2. Help each family member work through their spiritual concerns and needs; give each family member clear points of reference to work from in order to avoid confusion. This will include explaining your own beliefs, and being honest about the short comings ot many modern day promises of happiness.

WORK WITH A SPIRITUAL ROLE MODEL

In addition to consistently focusing on your child’s positive actions and effect as a means to building their inner resilience and confidence, it is vital to provide your child with a specific spiritual role model. Ultimately, having a spiritual role model provides your child with a sense of support and purpose to draw on when seeking to lead a positive life. Most people to walk 🚶 the long path of inner happiness.

1. The model is the consolidation of all positive qualities in one person. It shows us that it is possible to realize inner happiness and to lead a happy life. There are many different models for the path of inner happiness. Those role models who inspire our children personally.

2. Be sure that to include positive stories. The story books are full of good stories, and often it is the stories that help a child relate to a particular spiritual model. Tell these stories by heart, or read them aloud. Or devise stories yourself. Find stories in which the model wins over all the bad guys in the world, helps the weak and realizes enlightenment (a life in finding God and asking God to guide you to His and your happiness), etc.